Is there a norm? Is there an ideal case?

Are we trying to be someone we are not? Are we all actors and actresses? Those who are not afraid to be themselves and do what they like and want are often condemned by the society. Why can't we eat bread in a fancy restuarant the way we eat cheese burgers? Am I the only one who is tired of all these rules? Or is everyone feeling the same way I do? I grow tired, I take a break, and I get up and fight again. What happens when people grow tired and just stop fighting?